Dear Lena Dunham


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Dear Lena Dunham,

I’m not surprised. I’m not surprised at all. It’s almost laughable to think people still wholeheartedly support and like this woman when she is the reigning queen of white feminism. She’s played a pivotal role in the popularization and general acceptance of the idea that white feminist women can never be in the wrong, regardless how problematic or how obviously they’re in the wrong. Her latest attempt at failing the same women she’s sworn herself to protect is just another in a list of complete and utter feminist failures that she can now put on her award shelf. Failures that she consciously backs up and finds excuses to justify.

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Look at this way, how could a woman who’s spent a large part of her career saying she’s an ally and a defender of abused women so easily discredit the claims of a woman who accused a man of rape. Is there now some special Lena Dunham pass on sexual assault? Does criminal activity not apply to Lena and her friends? Apparently not. Lena has barricaded herself so comfortably behind the shield of white feminism that her fans and Lena herself is convinced that the things she and her friends do are beyond the realm of the law. And as a branch of her own belief that she is free from guilt, those who follow her career as fans have been conditioned to believe that she is free from guilt as well.

Look back at her earlier controversy where she confesses to “exploring her sister’s genitals, bribing her sister with candy in exchange for kisses, and masturbating whilst lying next to her younger sister when she was a child.” Fortunately for Lena, many of her peers, fans, and even child psychologists came to her side claiming what she did was not sexual abuse. Any moral person can understand that the constant exploration of a family member’s genitals as well as masturbating beside a child that has no idea what she’s witnessing, and bribing her with candy for kisses is blatant sexual abuse. However, Lena’s shield of feminism allows her to describe her abuse as mere childhood sexual explorations. And the worst part is she’s excused and celebrated by those around her. Celebrated for being outspoken on taboo issues while being a direct contributor to those taboo subjects. To see this woman gain praise for acting out of line with her sister then blatantly come to the rescue of her friend after he’d been accused of raping a woman is vile. You simply cannot support a woman who thinks that just because she’s known someone for years doesn’t mean they’re incapable of carrying out a sexual assault. Or does it simply come down to the fact that having rape allegations made against one of her own simply doesn’t fit her progressive brand, and this is her way of nipping a problem in the bud? In the end, rape is rape. And if you chose to dismiss the allegations made against your buddies and continue to excuse and deny your own, then you are the problem in today’s society. And that’s just the tea sis.

Dear… Donna Karan

Dear Donna Karan…

You’re cancelled. On behalf of anyone and everyone in the fashion industry, as well as the millions of women who have purchased and felt empowered by your clothing, you’re cancelled. On behalf of abuse victims, assault victims, and rape victims around the world, you’re cancelled. On behalf of everything that is righteous and pure in the world, you’re cancelled. Anything you choose to do from here on in has no value to the world, as well as everything you’ve done in the past carries no value. Why? Because it seems that the same women you aimed to empower with your clothing all those years ago, the same women who gave you your title and career, carry no value to you.

It’s baffling to see how a woman whose life mantra was empowerment for women, could so easily dismiss the claims made by women who only want to seek empowerment and justice for themselves and for the countless other women who fell to the disgusting hands of Harvey Weinstein. How could a woman who knows the brutality of finding success in the male-driven world of fashion so easily place the blame on women? On the same women who supported your success and contributed to it? It’s a shame to see that someone who could have been an ally to these women, whose mantra could have been to Weinstein’s victims support and a source of reassurance that they will get through this and that their attacker will be met with justice. It’s a shame to see her take the side of the villain and sow the seed of doubt by putting the blame on his victims and not crucify her BFF for what he’s done.

And how funny it is that 2 weeks later, Ms. Karan is now singing a different tune. Begging those around her to forgive her careless words as a mere misunderstanding in a tumultuous time. However, the truth of the matter is that life isn’t that simple anymore. Today’s society has enough sense to know that certain things are not so easily forgiven. And stating that “women who dress a certain way had it coming” isn’t something that should be easily forgiven. What if some of those women were wearing designs from one of your collection when they were attacked? Would that be inappropriate to you? Or would it be something you sweep under the rug in the way you want everyone to sweep what you said under the rug? Unfortunately, the world doesn’t work that way anymore. Times are changing Ms. Karan. In the same way that Harvey won’t be able to escape his fate, neither will you. That’s all.

It Takes A Village to Hide Sexual Misconduct

In case you missed it, Hollywood bigwig executive Harvey Weinstein has been hit with some major allegations of sexual harassment and sexual assault by over 30 women. These allegations have been ongoing for decades, but were only recently unearthed thanks to two major investigative reports, one from Jodi Kantor and Megan Twohey at The New York Times and the other from Ronan Farrow at The New Yorker.

One pervasive theme throughout all this is that it was apparently an “open secret” in Hollywood for years. Members of his company told Farrow there was a “culture of complicity” in his company to help hide the allegations. In 2004, The New York Times reporter Sharon Waxman had a story in the works about Weinstein’s sexual harassment before it was gutted, after Weinstein reportedly visited the Times office, and after actors Russel Crowe and Matt Damon called Waxman to vouch that Fabrizio Lombardo, an Italian film executive whose actual job, according to several sources, was to secure sex workers and escorts for Weinsten, was really a film executive and nothing more.

Many actors who reacted to the news admitted to having heard rumors about him for years but they never publicly discussed them. Kate Winslet, for one, wrote in a statement that she had heard of such rumours but “had hoped that these kind of stories were just made up rumours, maybe we have all been naïve.”

Actress Rose McGowan, one of the many who have accused Weinstein of sexual misconduct

There’s a bitter irony in hearing Winslet say that Weinstein’s behavior is “reprehensible and disgusting”, considering that she had this to say about Woody Allen and Roman Polanski, an alleged child molester and a convicted child rapist respectively: “I didn’t know Woody and I don’t know anything about that family. As the actor in the film, you just have to step away and say, I don’t know anything, really, and whether any of it is true or false. Having thought it all through, you put it to one side and just work with the person. Woody Allen is an incredible director. So is Roman Polanski. I had an extraordinary working experience with both of those men, and that’s the truth.” Hey, I bet lots of people could say the same about Weinstein! What’s all the fuss about? He’s an incredible executive producer (he’s had a hand in classics like Good Will Hunting and Pulp Fiction). Why can’t we all just push these pesky rape rumors aside and work with these men! (Oh, and here’s a fun fact: back in 2009 Weinstein wrote an article in defense of Polanski and called his rape conviction a “so-called crime”. I guess sexual abusers stick together?)

Winslet isn’t alone in this utter hypocrisy. Ben Affleck released a statement on Twitter condemning Weinstein, but has neglected to say much about the allegations of sexual harassment against his younger brother Casey Affleck, and has some harassment allegations of his own.

Actress Ashley Judd has also accused Weinstein of sexual misconduct

Weinstein got away with these kinds of bahavior for so long because an army of fellow executives, PR managers, lawyers, and famous Hollwood types kept it from getting out. Because of willful silence on the part of other powerful players in Hollywood, and because of the deliberate intimidation of anyone who would be open about this, especially the victims of harassment and assault.

I’m not surprised to hear about Weinstein, but I am surprised that he seems to be facing actual consequences. He’s apparently been fired from his company, his wife Georgina Chapman is leaving him, and police in London and New York are looking into investigating him. While it’s good that something is happening to Weinstein, I can’t help but think about the women who had to watch his enormous success, all too aware of what he did to them in private. I can’t help but think about how it took this long for us to talk about this. Or to think about the fact that if comedian Hannibal Buress didn’t bring up the Bill Cosby allegations back in 2014 during a comedy routine, Cosby’d probably still enjoy the same reputation he had before, even as the rape allegations were of public record for years. And I also can’t help but consider how many other Hollywood bigwigs aren’t facing such scrutiny. Polanski is still a free man. Allen is still making movies with top actors. Casey Affleck got an Oscar for Best Picture. Christian Slater was convicted of assaulting his former girlfriend Michelle Jonas back in 1997 and currently stars in the critically acclaimed TV series Mr. Robot. Johnny Depp “allegedly” verbally and physically abused his now ex-wife Amber Heard and is still set to be a major part of the Fantastic Beasts and Where To Find Them franchise, among other upcoming projects. And despite the fact that there is literally a section of director/producer Bryan Singer’s Wikipedia page entitled “sexual abuse allegations”, almost nobody discusses this about him and he has multiple upcoming film projects, including many in the X-Men franchise.

Actress Rosanna Arquette also accused Weinstein of sexual misconduct

None of these powerful men, or any others who we don’t know about (including an unnamed film executive who sexually assaulted actor Terry Crews, as Crews bravely revealed over Twitter recently), could possibly keep their abuse under wraps for years without some help. It takes a village to keep sexual abuse, assault, and harassment allegations from getting around.

So what do we do? I’ll tell you what: look this stuff up. Most of the allegations are public information. Next time you hear a rumor about a beloved actor or director, google them. And if it checks out, talk about it. I know, it’s easier to say nothing. But we owe it to the survivors of abuse, assault, and harassment to not let their stories fall through the cracks.

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